Im in love with my advisor, does he love me back??

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When I was an undergraduate I had a professor who I thought was interested in me. I never pursued anything with him, however, as I was not interested in him. To this day I don't know whether or not I was right, however I did learn that he way in fact gay (albeit partnered). If I were you I would use this trip as an opportunity to feel him out further and I would opt not to bring a friend along, as that would make it harder for you to get close to him. Even if he rejects you, I find it unlikely that he will tell a lot of people about this if it could in fact negatively effect his career. As for his having a girlfriend, if he acts somewhat effeminate and you get the impression that he's gay, he may very well be gay. I had a female friend in high school who was very butch and dated guys at the time; everyone thought she was a closeted lesbian and later on... guess what? It turned out she was in fact a lesbian. I'm not saying that stuff like that is always the case, but frequently it is. In this particular case it seems especially likely as I imagine (correct me if I'm wrong on this) that Turkey is a fairly socially conservative country where being gay would be frowned upon. Hence he has more reason to stay closeted. So yeah, my advice is to go for it. Especially in the states where you'll be thousands of miles away from anyone who'd care. By the way, is this trip necessary for the purpose of your PhD or is it simply something he wants to do with you? If the latter, I'd say this supports your belief that he's interested in you.