How are you today?

[Jay]

There is no reason to not be polite, no matter what has or will happen, manners and respect are #1 always, so there is no reason to stop you from saying 'Hello' or even having an office chat with Nick....BUT he is a collegue, not a friend, so whatever happens between you and Nick, stays at work, nothing more nothing lessmile:

I'm known as a very easy going and friendly guy. But admittedly ever since I found out what they did, I become icy toward them. It's a spontaneous act. I can't no longer crack a smile to them (Except to Nick). I can't even open my mouth to say hello (Again, except to Nick). So yes, I have become less polite to those guys.

Even though I have forgotten and forgiven them, I still get a painful flashback when I see them around.

But you are right, I need to remain polite toward them even after what they did to me. I need to work this one out.

Try it.

Forgiveness is good for the soul/heart whatever - not his, yours.

Perhaps now that his situation has changed his heart has changed.

I'm not saying jump back in where you left off, do be cautious.

I've forgiven them, Bowyn. It's just that I keep getting flashback when I see them around. I also become a bit scared and a bit panic when I see them.

I stumbled into my female friend who work with them on yesterday's morning. She mentioned to me about them. She told me that those guys are going to Phuket for a meeting (Work related). I asked if she's going to join them. "No, I can't stand to see their faces every single day", she replied.

I've been thinking, Bowyn. I think it's better to keep a gap in between. But as per advice from Daz, I will respond to their hellos and remain professional.

If Sam indeed has a different heart now, that's good. But I will not approach him and push him to me. Let him come to me. Let the friendship rebuild naturally and not forcefully.

Thanks Bowyn and Daz.