10-26-2013, 06:26 AM
I was doing okay until about an hour ago. My closest friend in the world, since I was 13, finally called me back after weeks of me texting and leaving voice messages. We haven't talked or seen each other in a year. We live on opposite sides of the country now and for whatever reason, neither of us has called the other.
I heard from another source that she had come into town for someone's wedding a few weeks ago and I was flabbergasted that she didn't tell me. So that's when I started calling. She ignored me. Then I got desperate and left a long frantic message on her phone asking her to please explain what the hell is going on.
She finally called me back tonight. She was very curt and tremendously cold. It was as if I were a stranger to her... or dead. I asked why she was upset with me and she wouldn't say. She said "I don't feel any differently. I've just been really busy." When I brought up the message I left she said "yeah... that kind of freaked me out. I just didn't want to deal with you if you were in that kind of a state." That really hurt.
So now I'm just totally confused and hurt and frustrated... which is probably exactly how she wants me to feel. I hurt her feelings somehow, clearly... but I don't know how, and she won't tell me. But I'm done making an effort to find out why. I've just about humiliated myself enough at this point in trying to rekindle our friendship.
I heard from another source that she had come into town for someone's wedding a few weeks ago and I was flabbergasted that she didn't tell me. So that's when I started calling. She ignored me. Then I got desperate and left a long frantic message on her phone asking her to please explain what the hell is going on.
She finally called me back tonight. She was very curt and tremendously cold. It was as if I were a stranger to her... or dead. I asked why she was upset with me and she wouldn't say. She said "I don't feel any differently. I've just been really busy." When I brought up the message I left she said "yeah... that kind of freaked me out. I just didn't want to deal with you if you were in that kind of a state." That really hurt.
So now I'm just totally confused and hurt and frustrated... which is probably exactly how she wants me to feel. I hurt her feelings somehow, clearly... but I don't know how, and she won't tell me. But I'm done making an effort to find out why. I've just about humiliated myself enough at this point in trying to rekindle our friendship.