Life has been spiraling for a few years now

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Put your mother into a nursing home, sell everything you can sell out of the house, and leave.

Most people who end up caring for their parents don't want to send their folk to one of those places where they get bed sores, pneumonia and die earlier than they should.

Then there is the long term consequences if he 'gives up' and tosses mom to a nursing home, he will always - ALWAYS - wonder if he did the right thing, if he was a good son, if he should have stuck it out longer....

He should talk to doctor(s) involved in the case to weigh the options for palliative care. If the feel that she would fare better at home, then he needs to figure out how much he can do and how much visiting nursing and others can do for him.

Just because his mom has a terminal illness does not mean she is ready for end of life hospital care. Never know, she might have a terrible fear of hospital and has begged to die at home. If she begged this kid, then he has that to wrestle with.