02-08-2014, 11:37 PM
Apparently with your other posts this "gay thing" is problematic for you. Since you need to remind us you are OCD, are you actually indulging yourself in your illness or is this a real 'I have this problem and I seek a solution' which is outside of the 'Oh look I have a new obsession I want to share....'?
(bold are my emphasis)
Let us define OCD here so we have a common frame of reference to work with:
To be clear on this matter, I know that a certain amount of 'feeding' OCD is helpful, it helps you to work through the episode and find some clarity and peace of mind. However all I hear from you is stressing out on your OCD aspect and having anxiety and questioning if your personal Gay Experience is a side effect of being OCD.
If I was your spouse I would give you one solid hour to sit there and rant on the subject at hand - whatever you are obsessing about, then I would hand you a pad of paper and pencil and have you list as objectively what you are feeling and what the subject matter really is.
Your rant hour is up honey, now its time for you to start looking at the issue with your fore-brain and start writing your lists.
In this thread there is this 'attraction' factor.
You are attracted to effeminate guys. Well for one that strikes me from ever actually being your spouse - IDK I do have delicate hands for a guy..... For another there are like billions upon trillions upon gazillions of effeminate gay guys in the world... Alight I do confess my astronomical number is a slight overestimate of the real numbers.
But lets face it, the common perception of what a gay man is is NOT the knuckle dragging, grunting masculine male, it is a guy who is delicate and sensitive and who understands in which order hair product is used, and who has a lisp and a swish and whose hand dangles as if their wrists are broken....
Now lets look at this with a bit of rationality, do you suppose that all of those effeminate gay men would remain effeminate if they were not getting positive attention (Boyfriends)? Clearly someone is attracted to effeminate fellows, or there wouldn't be so many of them in the world.
Yes I admit a lot of gay guys turn up the effeminate a lot, calling each other Bitches, Gurls, and using Fabulous every other sentence, however there is a real leaning in gay men toward femininity which may tie into the whole 'gay brains are similar to straight women's brains'.
If you are brain damaged to the point where you often mistake rocks for apples, pears and other delicious plant material, thus have a mouth full of broken teeth.... Then yes your mistaken.
I suspect, however, you are not brain damaged at all and know what it is you really want in life. IF you would stop allowing your OCD to take over and run your life and sit there and actually write down what it is you are feeling and then wait a day and go back and read what you wrote.
The thing about porn is that often enough the viewer places themselves in the position of one of the actors, and even straight guys who have nary an effeminate bone in their body get all confused because they find themselves identifying as the bottom guy getting his ass pounded by the 6-10 guys in the gangbang scene.
The thing there is power/loss of control, not actually 'My ass needs a good pounding' or 'my previous experiences in gangbanging remind me how good it feels to have 6-8 men essentially over use my butt...'
Its porn, its fantasy - and replacing real life with fantasy notions about what life is like never ends well. Seriously, guns hold only so much ammunition, and you can't be the Joker, nor do people actually fly across the universe in Starships... so why on earth would you apply reality to an erotic 'story' which is clearly made up. Never see any porn take a break to roll on the condom. Condoms don't magically appear.
So why would anything else in a porn movie have any bearing on real life?
Quote:Well, I saw a picture of a guy. And I didn't feel nothibg. But the next day I remembered it and it gave me anxiety. Then after obsessing for a bit
Quote:Well, i have had ocd my whole life, as well as anxiety. it is very hard to deal with, anyways i began to question my sexuality,
(bold are my emphasis)
Let us define OCD here so we have a common frame of reference to work with:
Quote:Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is characterized by either obsessions or compulsions: Obsessions as defined by: Recurrent and persistent thoughts, impulses, or images that are experienced, at some time during the disturbance, as intrusive and inappropriate and that cause marked anxiety or distress.
To be clear on this matter, I know that a certain amount of 'feeding' OCD is helpful, it helps you to work through the episode and find some clarity and peace of mind. However all I hear from you is stressing out on your OCD aspect and having anxiety and questioning if your personal Gay Experience is a side effect of being OCD.
If I was your spouse I would give you one solid hour to sit there and rant on the subject at hand - whatever you are obsessing about, then I would hand you a pad of paper and pencil and have you list as objectively what you are feeling and what the subject matter really is.
Your rant hour is up honey, now its time for you to start looking at the issue with your fore-brain and start writing your lists.
In this thread there is this 'attraction' factor.
You are attracted to effeminate guys. Well for one that strikes me from ever actually being your spouse - IDK I do have delicate hands for a guy..... For another there are like billions upon trillions upon gazillions of effeminate gay guys in the world... Alight I do confess my astronomical number is a slight overestimate of the real numbers.
But lets face it, the common perception of what a gay man is is NOT the knuckle dragging, grunting masculine male, it is a guy who is delicate and sensitive and who understands in which order hair product is used, and who has a lisp and a swish and whose hand dangles as if their wrists are broken....
Now lets look at this with a bit of rationality, do you suppose that all of those effeminate gay men would remain effeminate if they were not getting positive attention (Boyfriends)? Clearly someone is attracted to effeminate fellows, or there wouldn't be so many of them in the world.
Yes I admit a lot of gay guys turn up the effeminate a lot, calling each other Bitches, Gurls, and using Fabulous every other sentence, however there is a real leaning in gay men toward femininity which may tie into the whole 'gay brains are similar to straight women's brains'.
Quote:But I'm freaking out if I'm attracted to feminine guys.With everything I said above, this seems to not be a problem, in fact if you are this attracted to effeminate gay guys apparently you have a very long, healthy sex life ahead of you with lots of potential mates.
Quote:Anyways I pictured myself being that guy. I'm freaking out, could I have mistaken wanting to be him for attraction.
If you are brain damaged to the point where you often mistake rocks for apples, pears and other delicious plant material, thus have a mouth full of broken teeth.... Then yes your mistaken.
I suspect, however, you are not brain damaged at all and know what it is you really want in life. IF you would stop allowing your OCD to take over and run your life and sit there and actually write down what it is you are feeling and then wait a day and go back and read what you wrote.
The thing about porn is that often enough the viewer places themselves in the position of one of the actors, and even straight guys who have nary an effeminate bone in their body get all confused because they find themselves identifying as the bottom guy getting his ass pounded by the 6-10 guys in the gangbang scene.
The thing there is power/loss of control, not actually 'My ass needs a good pounding' or 'my previous experiences in gangbanging remind me how good it feels to have 6-8 men essentially over use my butt...'
Its porn, its fantasy - and replacing real life with fantasy notions about what life is like never ends well. Seriously, guns hold only so much ammunition, and you can't be the Joker, nor do people actually fly across the universe in Starships... so why on earth would you apply reality to an erotic 'story' which is clearly made up. Never see any porn take a break to roll on the condom. Condoms don't magically appear.
So why would anything else in a porn movie have any bearing on real life?
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