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[Smurlos]

Hey teeny,

I just want to say that not all guys are 'gay' for the sex mile:
You mention you think you're bi in one breath and then just mention the sex in the second breath. There are also gay guys out there like my boyfriend and I who do not practise anal sex for example... as there are probably couples out there who only practise anal sex? It really does differ. But I know that I'm in it for the wonderful guy aspect mile:

First question to ask yourself is, would you be ready to meet a guy from online, to chat to and get to know a little bit first? I wouldn't jump in with two feet... do you know that this guy is HIV neg? Do you know that he's going to be gentle and not cause any damage being as it's your first time? These are all things I'd want to take into consideration on my first time and I think the only way you'd be able to ascertain that these conditions are met is by creating a 'kind of' connection with the person, getting to know them a bit, finding out a bit about them and letting them find out stuff about you.

Once the first step has been taken and you feel that you are now ready to meet this guy, you need to take things one step at a time. So don't rush into it. If at any point you suddenly don't want to do it, you need to know that the guy is going to stop and respect your decision and isn't going to go any further than you are willing to go.

Is it just a case of you wanting to have things done to you? Or are you willing to do things back for him?

I'd probably start off maybe meeting the guy and start off with a simple hand job? Then maybe arrange to meet the week after and move on to oral. If you're comfortable with that and then want to go further, then leave that for another week, don't do the whole lot all at once.

Are you looking for love in this new aspect you've discovered in yourself? Or are you purely looking for the sex and wanting to find yourself a member of the female species to settle down with?