After my rejection friend has changed a lot

[meridannight]

I agree that he might benefit from some physical contact, but I'm worried that this will send him mixed messages since you are the target of his affection.

yes i thought about that too.

however, it is possible to do it without sending mixed signals. simply asking if it isn't making him uncomfortable or teasing, for example. just sitting down with him, taking his hand, or hugging him saying something like, ''i don't want to lead you on here but i just want to make you feel better''. or ''i can't ever reciprocate your feelings but i hope it's okay that i hug you''.

damnit, that should set the record straight. you just have to be honest in these situations. you know the potential for him to get confused is there, so you are blatantly honest with him and remind him where things stand when you do something that could be confusing. you can still express physical affection.

i know i'd rather take it, even if there won't ever be anything more.