08-12-2014, 01:51 AM
Take Mike's advice and report this to the police. I am trying to figure out how you can say he is not mean, yet he threatened to blackmail you by going to your parents. That's is a prime example of meanness and it is stalking.
Unfortunately for you, I think you really need to consider telling your parents as suggested by Anocxu. You can report this to the police and they can talk to him and perhaps get a court to issue what ever equivalent you have in Australia to a personal protection order, The actions, however, short of physically restraining and muzzling him, do not absolutely prevent him from going to your parents. While they can do what they can to discourage him, it doesn't mean he will listen even if it meant he was breaking the law. The process of going to the police and then possibly going to a court, also prevent some difficulty of trying to do this and keep this from your parents when your official address is your parent's home. As long as your parents do not know about your sexual orientation, you will have to always live with the possibility he could say something, even a year from now when this is out of your mind. Having that talk with your parents is the only sure way to remove this threat.
On this subject and something to say to not just the OP but the larger closeted community at large, when you live in the closet but have put one foot into the gay world, you are forever at the mercy of someone else and in a way handed some control of your personal life over to other people. You can run into a mean spirited person who threatens to expose you, a mean spirited person who doesn't bother to threaten you and just does it, or you can run into a person who unknowingly exposes you having just assumed your family knew. There is also the possibility of them finding out by accident, like a browser tab left open or looking at your phone you just laid on the table. The closet comes with risks.
Unfortunately for you, I think you really need to consider telling your parents as suggested by Anocxu. You can report this to the police and they can talk to him and perhaps get a court to issue what ever equivalent you have in Australia to a personal protection order, The actions, however, short of physically restraining and muzzling him, do not absolutely prevent him from going to your parents. While they can do what they can to discourage him, it doesn't mean he will listen even if it meant he was breaking the law. The process of going to the police and then possibly going to a court, also prevent some difficulty of trying to do this and keep this from your parents when your official address is your parent's home. As long as your parents do not know about your sexual orientation, you will have to always live with the possibility he could say something, even a year from now when this is out of your mind. Having that talk with your parents is the only sure way to remove this threat.
On this subject and something to say to not just the OP but the larger closeted community at large, when you live in the closet but have put one foot into the gay world, you are forever at the mercy of someone else and in a way handed some control of your personal life over to other people. You can run into a mean spirited person who threatens to expose you, a mean spirited person who doesn't bother to threaten you and just does it, or you can run into a person who unknowingly exposes you having just assumed your family knew. There is also the possibility of them finding out by accident, like a browser tab left open or looking at your phone you just laid on the table. The closet comes with risks.
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