08-12-2014, 03:55 AM
well you obviously DON'T know how dangerous it is to give a guy like that your address so you're gonna get a lecture on this -- that was a stupid thing to do! you can't possibly physically get together with someone like that, but now he knows where you live. brilliant.
i don't really want to scare you any more than that but you're actually in a serious shit right now. you could have a lot more to worry about than just your parents getting some dirty screenshots where you have a starring role. seriously, what the fuck where you thinking? it didn't occur to you to tell him to meet up at the restaurant instead of forwarding him your address? that's basic common sense man.
okay. look, you don't have a lot of options. giving in to anything he wants is NOT an option. but there are some things you need to think about. for one, this guy has an obsessive personality. obsessive personality means, it doesn't matter whether you avoid him or meet with him, eventually it'll lead to the same end result -- unless you plan on doing everything he wants at one point you're gonna have to cut him loose and he'll react the same way as he reacted now -- with threats and blackmail to try to hang on to you. you'll still be in the same place just much worse because you've stressed yourself to put up with this shit. you cut him loose now, and you watch out for anything unusual at home. your parents finding out is one thing, but him starting to show up at your house, following you, anything like that is much much worse. this is why you don't give strangers your home address -- to avoid having to worry about shit like this. it's obvious the guy is out of his mind. sending a letter to your parents is probably the least harmful thing he can do right now.
just cut contact with him. you can't reason with someone like that. and talking to him, continuing interacting with him, that can get him even more invested in hanging on to you. it can be dangerous depending on just how screwed up this guy is, but this is the best option you've got. stop interacting with him and hope he doesn't show up. if he does show up at your place unannounced or tries to talk to you that's a sign that things can get a lot worse. if he shows up at your place, then you're really in trouble. you'll have to actually start thinking about how to physically defend yourself from this guy. see exactly how dangerous it was to give him such information? just hope i'm blowing this way out of proportion and he's just some weirdo who hopes to get more attention from you and will give up once you stop entertaining him. hope that's the case. because that is the best case scenario.
one more thing, you have to accept that your parents finding out about you is not a disaster. no matter how bigoted they might be or not. start preparing for that possibility too. what you're gonna say to them when they find out, and get a backup plan if you need to move out, things like that. if he decides to send them that information, there's nothing you can do to avoid that.
i don't really want to scare you any more than that but you're actually in a serious shit right now. you could have a lot more to worry about than just your parents getting some dirty screenshots where you have a starring role. seriously, what the fuck where you thinking? it didn't occur to you to tell him to meet up at the restaurant instead of forwarding him your address? that's basic common sense man.
okay. look, you don't have a lot of options. giving in to anything he wants is NOT an option. but there are some things you need to think about. for one, this guy has an obsessive personality. obsessive personality means, it doesn't matter whether you avoid him or meet with him, eventually it'll lead to the same end result -- unless you plan on doing everything he wants at one point you're gonna have to cut him loose and he'll react the same way as he reacted now -- with threats and blackmail to try to hang on to you. you'll still be in the same place just much worse because you've stressed yourself to put up with this shit. you cut him loose now, and you watch out for anything unusual at home. your parents finding out is one thing, but him starting to show up at your house, following you, anything like that is much much worse. this is why you don't give strangers your home address -- to avoid having to worry about shit like this. it's obvious the guy is out of his mind. sending a letter to your parents is probably the least harmful thing he can do right now.
just cut contact with him. you can't reason with someone like that. and talking to him, continuing interacting with him, that can get him even more invested in hanging on to you. it can be dangerous depending on just how screwed up this guy is, but this is the best option you've got. stop interacting with him and hope he doesn't show up. if he does show up at your place unannounced or tries to talk to you that's a sign that things can get a lot worse. if he shows up at your place, then you're really in trouble. you'll have to actually start thinking about how to physically defend yourself from this guy. see exactly how dangerous it was to give him such information? just hope i'm blowing this way out of proportion and he's just some weirdo who hopes to get more attention from you and will give up once you stop entertaining him. hope that's the case. because that is the best case scenario.
one more thing, you have to accept that your parents finding out about you is not a disaster. no matter how bigoted they might be or not. start preparing for that possibility too. what you're gonna say to them when they find out, and get a backup plan if you need to move out, things like that. if he decides to send them that information, there's nothing you can do to avoid that.
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