08-27-2014, 08:18 PM
I am gay and out and single. A guy with whom I have been relatively close friends for a little over a year confuses me a bit. He's good looking and presents himself as straight. He's a bit of a womanizer and often recounts how many women he has slept with etc. I don't believe he is lying.
We used to spend a lot of time together: hang out 2-3 times per a week; talk on the phone 3-4 times a day; frequent texts and emails
There have been a few incidents that have confused me.
For instance:
1) One time he volunteered that he wore briefs and then dropped his pants to show me. I told him I know what briefs look like.
2) We used to go to the movies often together. He selected a French film that was advertised that it was about a murder in a gay cruising area. Halfway thru the film he got up to leave because he said he was uncomfortable.
3) Over dinner he told me that he keeps some pot in his apartment to "lure" women back to his place (ie suggests to a date that they go back to his place to smoke). After the dinner we were walking towards his places and he said "Do you want a puff?" I declined.
4) He recently met a woman and her gay friend on the street and they started chatting. The woman and her friend went to a gay bar and he went with them. He claimed that he left after a few minutes. But the next day, he asked if we could walk by the bar to see what it was called.
There are more instances.
The reason why I am posting is that I am very confused. He knows I am gay, so I don't know if he's just playing with me or looking for me to make a move (which I am very reluctant to do since he is always talking about his female conquests and I truly do not think he is lying). He's 35 and single - but as I said, he is always hooking up with women. And this weekend he is flying across the country to see a 26 year old girl he met (and slept with) earlier this summer. They have been talking everyday for the last 6 weeks and that's one reason why he is speaking less frequently with me.
We used to spend a lot of time together: hang out 2-3 times per a week; talk on the phone 3-4 times a day; frequent texts and emails
There have been a few incidents that have confused me.
For instance:
1) One time he volunteered that he wore briefs and then dropped his pants to show me. I told him I know what briefs look like.
2) We used to go to the movies often together. He selected a French film that was advertised that it was about a murder in a gay cruising area. Halfway thru the film he got up to leave because he said he was uncomfortable.
3) Over dinner he told me that he keeps some pot in his apartment to "lure" women back to his place (ie suggests to a date that they go back to his place to smoke). After the dinner we were walking towards his places and he said "Do you want a puff?" I declined.
4) He recently met a woman and her gay friend on the street and they started chatting. The woman and her friend went to a gay bar and he went with them. He claimed that he left after a few minutes. But the next day, he asked if we could walk by the bar to see what it was called.
There are more instances.
The reason why I am posting is that I am very confused. He knows I am gay, so I don't know if he's just playing with me or looking for me to make a move (which I am very reluctant to do since he is always talking about his female conquests and I truly do not think he is lying). He's 35 and single - but as I said, he is always hooking up with women. And this weekend he is flying across the country to see a 26 year old girl he met (and slept with) earlier this summer. They have been talking everyday for the last 6 weeks and that's one reason why he is speaking less frequently with me.
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