People Asking For Money

[TwisttheLeaf]

Like you, I'd also like to hear a good way to avoid (without just rudely ignoring) panhandlers when I am not comfortable giving. I've never found a good way apart from lying.

I have the answer to this question.

1) DO NOT make eye contact. EVER. In this way, you are acknowledging them to the point where you feel approachable. Where they think you will see their hardship and feel bad for them, thus give them something.

2) When you see you are approaching a panhandler, put your head down. This makes you less approachable, and thus they are less likely to speak to you directly.

I know that in Western culture, these are by some considered rude. But, maybe it will help to realize that isn't the case in -all- cultures.

It may seem callous. Maybe it is, but there you have it.

I used to feel guilty about it, but the fact is I struggle hard, work HARD for my money. And I don't have enough of it to save everyone who asks for a handout. Hell, I barely have enough to keep myself fed. I just can't save everyone, no matter how much I want to.