11-08-2008, 07:53 PM
You definitely needed to get that off your chest!
Where to begin? First welcome to Gay Speak, I'm new myself here but everyone has been really friendly. Second, ITS OK! We've all felt like that, we've all felt trapped in the closet, we've all crushed on straight guys and, you know what, we've survived, you will too. So just take a deep breath, maybe make yourself a cup of tea.
Now for a few more thoughts. This guy broke your heart, he had no idea he was doing it when he cracked those jokes, but he still obliterated your hopes and dreams. It sucks and its going to hurt. He's straight and there's nothing you can do other than move on, easier said than done I know.
It seems to me you are doing on of my favourite activities: worst case scenario gazing. So lets take this apart piece by piece. No one can make you marry a girl, you're right it may ruin her life too, its a free country you can always say no and if you needed to you could make up a reason why.
You're right you do need someone to talk to, ideally a real person in your life, but if not then the internet will do. (That's what I had to do a couple of years back, on another forum.) Think about your friends maybe there is someone you could talk to? Do you know any gay people? Are there any gays at work you could get friendly with? No need to go looking for a potential boyfriend at the moment, just some new friends you can be yourself with, who know what its like.
Above all please remember despite how it may seem at the moment you are not alone, there are lots of other guys in your position.
Where to begin? First welcome to Gay Speak, I'm new myself here but everyone has been really friendly. Second, ITS OK! We've all felt like that, we've all felt trapped in the closet, we've all crushed on straight guys and, you know what, we've survived, you will too. So just take a deep breath, maybe make yourself a cup of tea.
Now for a few more thoughts. This guy broke your heart, he had no idea he was doing it when he cracked those jokes, but he still obliterated your hopes and dreams. It sucks and its going to hurt. He's straight and there's nothing you can do other than move on, easier said than done I know.
It seems to me you are doing on of my favourite activities: worst case scenario gazing. So lets take this apart piece by piece. No one can make you marry a girl, you're right it may ruin her life too, its a free country you can always say no and if you needed to you could make up a reason why.
You're right you do need someone to talk to, ideally a real person in your life, but if not then the internet will do. (That's what I had to do a couple of years back, on another forum.) Think about your friends maybe there is someone you could talk to? Do you know any gay people? Are there any gays at work you could get friendly with? No need to go looking for a potential boyfriend at the moment, just some new friends you can be yourself with, who know what its like.
Above all please remember despite how it may seem at the moment you are not alone, there are lots of other guys in your position.
Fred
Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.
Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.
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