Please Please gimme some advice..im going mad!

[BiPenny]

Every straight boy is a top.

I beg to differ - predominantly yes, exclusivly no. But thats a different discussion altogether


BabyBoy you are always more than welcome to ask advice from any of us on here - if you spend a little more time with us you will find there is a real community spirit here and we will help anyone if they ask nicely :biggrin: Feel free to PM me if you wanna talk more.

Let me tell you how my situation works. My family are in Yorkshire (yorksha born n bred me!!) but I live near London where I work at the moment. Where I live and work almost everyone knows I am Bi - nobody has had any real issues with it and I spend a lot of time in Soho, I have a lot of gay friends (all blokes - why do I only seem to meet gay guys and straight women?!?!?! :frown: ) and I'm comfortable and happy with that.

When I go home nobody knows I'm Bi. I have a completely different life up there, I'm not sure how well that would work for me if I lived up there long term (which is a possibility for the near future :~)

I find the ability to seperate my two lives due to the distance is really helpful. I would come out to my family if I met the right person but right now I'm sticking to where I am to avoid uneccesary upset. Are your family nearby or further afield?

There is absolutely no pressure here to come out to anyone - if there is the opportunity with someone you trust and feel comfortable with it may offer you some outlet for your tension. You say you are considered by family and friends to be a 'player' - how does this sit with your family?

Certainly a gay social group would be an excellent starting point if it is at all workable. I may be biased but a fag hag (ask if she minds before you call her that!!!) is a great help to many gay men in yoiur situation cos they will happily discuss blokes and all things cock (or not if you prefer!) without issue (I'm sure WouldLikeMuscle - who is another forum member - would agree, if not I'll beat him til he does!!!!!!!)

Hope things pick up for you.