11-26-2008, 08:07 AM
All right guys. 
Wasn't how I expected it to be. I thought when I tell my dad that I was gay that we'd just laugh it off, no worries...wrong. So this is how it happened. :frown:
So I worked my way slowly into telling him I'm gay. My dad hurt his back at his work so he got a surgery but he couldnt go back to work cuz his back was still in pain. He really can't do much. Anyways, my brothers and I were like 13 then and we never visited him at the hospital during the surgery. I started feeling guilty. And I took a deep breath and said.."what if we had come"...and I couldnt finish...I started crying. He asked me what I meant. But I couldn't finish and he started talking telling me that its ok and not to worry about it. Then he mentioned about his plans, about saving the money he earned and putting it into my older bro's college. But my bro went into military and my dad supported him, whatever he chose. Then I took another deep breath...and said, "Dad..like you supported him, I need your support too." I started crying again. I would say "it's hard to say it". then i just said, "dad i'm going to this meeting on wednesday." he asked what the meeting was for. I said, "Dad I know you already know that I'm gay."...I really thought that he did. he said, "What? You're gay? I didn't know that."...then i couldn't go on and started crying again. He asked me how i know. i just said that i just knew. He started telling me about when i was young that i was teased by my uncle and that he would call me a girl because i had this long pretty hair. anyways he got the idea that because of that i got the idea wrong about me being gay. he asked me what the meeting was for. i told him it was to help me and others like me. he was still in denial bout me being gay but he said that it doesnt change anything and that he still loves me. He also said that he was just scared for me because he knew that lots of bad things happen to gay people and they just dont understand. we stopped there because my brother came home. :frown:
Wasn't how I expected it to be. I thought when I tell my dad that I was gay that we'd just laugh it off, no worries...wrong. So this is how it happened. :frown:
So I worked my way slowly into telling him I'm gay. My dad hurt his back at his work so he got a surgery but he couldnt go back to work cuz his back was still in pain. He really can't do much. Anyways, my brothers and I were like 13 then and we never visited him at the hospital during the surgery. I started feeling guilty. And I took a deep breath and said.."what if we had come"...and I couldnt finish...I started crying. He asked me what I meant. But I couldn't finish and he started talking telling me that its ok and not to worry about it. Then he mentioned about his plans, about saving the money he earned and putting it into my older bro's college. But my bro went into military and my dad supported him, whatever he chose. Then I took another deep breath...and said, "Dad..like you supported him, I need your support too." I started crying again. I would say "it's hard to say it". then i just said, "dad i'm going to this meeting on wednesday." he asked what the meeting was for. I said, "Dad I know you already know that I'm gay."...I really thought that he did. he said, "What? You're gay? I didn't know that."...then i couldn't go on and started crying again. He asked me how i know. i just said that i just knew. He started telling me about when i was young that i was teased by my uncle and that he would call me a girl because i had this long pretty hair. anyways he got the idea that because of that i got the idea wrong about me being gay. he asked me what the meeting was for. i told him it was to help me and others like me. he was still in denial bout me being gay but he said that it doesnt change anything and that he still loves me. He also said that he was just scared for me because he knew that lots of bad things happen to gay people and they just dont understand. we stopped there because my brother came home. :frown:
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