Lost...isolated...and afraid

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I say that you're enveloped in a cloud of foggy negative feelings and to adress the problems you seem to have you need to start deconstructing them. Divide and conquer.


First, adress the conceptions you have about being gay:

"the feeling of it"? There's only attraction to the same gender and that's about the only thing that defines being"gay".

I assume you mean how you feel about your sexuality. Does it cause you anxiety? That would be normal. But whatever your feelings about it you will have to come to terms with it. It's out of your control. The sooner you accept that the sooner it will stop being a problem for you.

"worthy of being gay"? Being gay is not an accomplishment and no one hands it to you so it has nothing to do with your personal traits. It's there and that's that.


Lack of social skills, feeling isolated? More common than you think. And the thing is, it's ok. You don't have to play everyone else's game. I don't.

You self-perception is damaged. You think you're ugly. I bet that more than one guy out there will think otherwise. While no one can be attractive to every single person, we often see ourselves in a worse light than others do. I certainly do.


So, you summarized a handful of things that are negative. How about we do this? Why don't you continue your introduction to us by telling us positive aspects about yourself. Things you're proud of, things you've achieved. Focus on those and handling the negative aspects of your life will be easier.

That is, of course, if you are interested in doing that. You have to want to get out of this negative streak and seek better things for yourself. You have to want to help yourself first.