Dating/Friendship Advice

[pman117]

i cant guys. dont know what to do. i feel like he's seeing his ex, doing his ex and then taking him to dinner...
bUT it could be his friend. or someone else he's seeing.

1) what, if any, evidence do you have for this feeling? Have you seen him with someone else? Or is this just a gut feeling that you keep holding on to and thinking about every so often.

2) On the flip side, what evidence do you have that he is not seeing an ex or other friend or whatever. He's told you he's not right? Yes those are his words but if you don't believe him then...what are you doing?

3) If your feeling like this right now as "friends" what happens if you become a thing. Will you still worry about something like this? Another way to look at it is: will this affect your relationship (whatever form that takes) in the future?

Finally: This is my two cents so you might wait for some else response with a bit more credit behind it but. At this point I think you need to talk with him (you guys still haven't met yet right?), or even call him to really sit down and let him know where you're coming from. It is an extremely difficult conversation for you and probably for him too, I understand that, but he's told you that he's not seeing others and you keep thinking he is and you think he's leading you on. Don't be accusatory, don't blurt out ""you are leading me on" or something like that because he will immediately get defensive. Make it more about you, "I feel like we have different expectations and want to know where you are at" or something.

This is where I lack experience completely and the above paragraph is more of a personal take of what I think I would do.

Side note: I feel like you've taken a step back from your previous comments about dinner being the last stand. He hasn't taken you up on that offer, he hasn't answered the comment you sent him about wanting to get to know him and he continues to talk about wanting/dreaming about your ass. He's either afraid of committing to anything or isn't as interested as you want him to be. Only you and him can determine which one it is and you can only do that by talking to him and telling him what you're feeling. If he runs away because you want to talk about feelings, then he probably isn't good for you anyway. If he listens and actually converses about it, perhaps you two can get somewhere and come to an understanding.

(Again, any help from some of the forum veterans will likely be better suited for this situation than myself)

Heartbreak sucks big time, it's a fact.