07-31-2016, 11:36 AM
That's a hard one...
Regarding the hand thing. Sounds to me he's toying with you. I'd jokingly but seriously give him a couple warnings... "next time you do that I'm going to grab it." If your bold proceed to do so. Not so bold grab him by his waistband or hip and pull him closer. Want to mess with him, do the same thing back to him... maybe he'll grab your crotch 1st.
I worked with a guy in Iraq that was really touchy feely - to point of being creepy. He would constantly have to touch people on their arms, back, shoulder, etc. He was older and had that "fatherly" personality - probably be real good at teaching kids soccer but inappropriate in the business world. You couldn't get near the guy w/o him trying to touch you...
I finally had enough of it and let him know, to keep his hands to himself, otherwise he was going to get hit. When he started to reach out I'd punch him on the shoulder - friendly like, but with some force behind it.
Working where I do, I have a bunch of straight drinking buddies who constantly talk about sex. Nothing is out of bounds at our drinking table. They all know I'm gay and I will jokingly flirt with them.
Sometimes - that has gone "bad." Was flirting with one drinking buddy a couple years ago, and next thing I know the guy is following me to my room... not what I expected. Turns out he was gay but really closeted... Ooops.
Where am I going with this? Communication & Pay Back... Let him know the deal. If he wants to play "Gay Chicken" tell him that you are always going to win.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.ph...%20chicken
Regarding the hand thing. Sounds to me he's toying with you. I'd jokingly but seriously give him a couple warnings... "next time you do that I'm going to grab it." If your bold proceed to do so. Not so bold grab him by his waistband or hip and pull him closer. Want to mess with him, do the same thing back to him... maybe he'll grab your crotch 1st.
I worked with a guy in Iraq that was really touchy feely - to point of being creepy. He would constantly have to touch people on their arms, back, shoulder, etc. He was older and had that "fatherly" personality - probably be real good at teaching kids soccer but inappropriate in the business world. You couldn't get near the guy w/o him trying to touch you...
I finally had enough of it and let him know, to keep his hands to himself, otherwise he was going to get hit. When he started to reach out I'd punch him on the shoulder - friendly like, but with some force behind it.
Working where I do, I have a bunch of straight drinking buddies who constantly talk about sex. Nothing is out of bounds at our drinking table. They all know I'm gay and I will jokingly flirt with them.
Sometimes - that has gone "bad." Was flirting with one drinking buddy a couple years ago, and next thing I know the guy is following me to my room... not what I expected. Turns out he was gay but really closeted... Ooops.
Where am I going with this? Communication & Pay Back... Let him know the deal. If he wants to play "Gay Chicken" tell him that you are always going to win.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.ph...%20chicken
Use a condom.
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