Straight Friend Mixed signals

[meridannight]

either he respects your boundaries for making the friendship work or this thing falls apart sooner or later. all the sexual jokes and innuendos, the physicality -- that is absolutely normal for the two guys who can handle it on a neutral basis. i have a friend with whom things can also get quite physical. but i feel no sexual attraction for him and it is easy not to make anything of it. you feel sexual attraction for your friend, and lines get blurred because of that.

bottom line -- he knows you're gay, he knows you're attracted to him. if after all this he wanted you, it would be very easy for him to just make it clear. if he's teasing you, or playing some sort of a game here, that is cruel. there is no need for that. he's said he's straight and you have no reason to think otherwise. a man knows how to let you know that he's confused or unsure about his sexuality or at least about his feelings for you, after all. this isn't how that's done. he's straight, take him at his word on that one.

so, it seems to me he doesn't know where the boundaries are, and you have to establish them.

meanwhile, go on with your life. go date guys you want to be with, etc. don't stay waiting on some chosen-one he has picked out for you (just because he is your friend and picks a guy for you doesn't mean you will like him. that is completely absurd -- nobody but you can choose a man for yourself. he should stay out of it).