Sagittarius
08-09-2016, 03:43 AM
Tried talking through it with your partner?
You haven't mentioned it, but I am wondering if you are not sure just what your partner likes in the way of a bedmate's behavior. Consciously or not, that could make you unsettled.
Maybe he can help you relax before sleep with a massage.
The lavender oil thing is a long known recipe for relaxing. Try it. It can't hurt.
I find that if I do wake at night it is better to just get up and do something calm. Read, draw, have a glass of wine, just think out the day. Avoid TV or computer because they can encourage wakefulness. Then go back to bed in a calm mood. If your partner likes it you could have sex and concentrate on relaxing and feeling secure.
The main thing is to get used to your surroundings and your friend's presence. I imagine that beneath the surface, you just don't quite feel at home yet.
You haven't mentioned it, but I am wondering if you are not sure just what your partner likes in the way of a bedmate's behavior. Consciously or not, that could make you unsettled.
Maybe he can help you relax before sleep with a massage.
The lavender oil thing is a long known recipe for relaxing. Try it. It can't hurt.
I find that if I do wake at night it is better to just get up and do something calm. Read, draw, have a glass of wine, just think out the day. Avoid TV or computer because they can encourage wakefulness. Then go back to bed in a calm mood. If your partner likes it you could have sex and concentrate on relaxing and feeling secure.
The main thing is to get used to your surroundings and your friend's presence. I imagine that beneath the surface, you just don't quite feel at home yet.
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