Discovered porn pics from my boyfriend and his ex

[IanSaysHi]

I think the best option is honesty. Tell him what you've discovered and find out more about the situation. Were they photos of just one time? Maybe they took the photos as they were trying a role/reversal that time? Maybe he didn't enjoy it with his ex so doesn't want to try it again? Also maybe don't go down the begging/interrogation/upset questioning route. There's a reason the other guy is an ex. Be calm and maybe put it to him in a more positive way ("I'd really like to try doing the same with you"). Don't beg/whinge because in my experience if a guy is going to top they need to be a bit more... Confident/assertive. It's sexy. Well, my personal taste anyway.