Idk what to do and I'm desperate for advice..

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Man every time I read one of your posts I'm impressed with how mature and rational you are.

It seems to me that you've run into someone who's at a more common level of emotional development for a 21 year old. (an over-emotional hot mess). I'd be willing to bet that even he doesn't really know he wants. He's just blown about by his emotions like a ship adrift at sea being dragged about by the currents.

The most important thing is for you to know that this is no reflection on you at all. Whatever thoughts run through his head to cause him to freeze up on you, they're simply his issues that he needs to work through.

Whether or not you want to stick with him while he matures and works things out is upto you. But yes he probably will unintentionally hurt you again. It's a question of how much you want to be with him I guess.

Thank you for your post. I could never describe him the way you did so that definitely helped me know what's up. Yeah, I know it has nothing to do with me. ON the contrary, I'm a very understanding, caring and loving guy so i told him that we could work through these issues together. Though I've been hurt too many times through these two weeks and two weeks aren't a time to be hurt..

He cries alot btw. We just talked about it on the phone and he would cry over the phone for causing me emotional pain. I'm like "You don't need to cry" cuz i wasn't even feeling sad since we were trying to discuss the issue and come to an understanding ground.