Idk what to do and I'm desperate for advice..

[verysimple]

Hi verysimple!..you guys look like you are having fun and are a sexy couple....and I am glad you are going out and meeting guys!

Now the bad part..since you asked....two red flags in one.....

"I have a hard time trusting..and it is because of past relationships..."

It is a deadly combo...because it is likely true...but not likely THE TRUTH. What would be more true is that he has probably behaved like this in the past and justified it instead of "working through it". In order to work through something..you have to own your shit..and that means owning THE TRUTH..not the partial truth or a watered down version of it.

He can get past it...but he has to be more honest with himself and most people don't like to be told that unless they ask..and even then..it can be a minefield that will explode in your face if you even suggest that they might have played a bigger and messier part in their own past...

Of course...there is hope. He can actually get past if if he decides to be completely honest...it CAN happen for anyone..anytime...but unfortunately alot of people choose the low road...

In other words...If you hear him say "I have been a fucking mess and I have a weak ego and have a problem taking responsibility for my emotions and actions so I blame other people for my shortcomings even if it is a worn out cliche."...then YES...Keep Him!

If he does the same thing tough... again and again.... and you get used to it.....not good....better end it. Wish him well though....and try again...

but what if I told him that line you just said?.. That he's a fucking mess.. etc then what??