Getting messed about with on dating sites

[Gemini]

OK, I get that the guys we talk to online, dating sites and whatever, are people just like us and have issues and schedules and obligations and such. But if they're going to start conversations, wouldn't a little straightforward honesty be nice? Like, instead of saying "Soon" admit that he's buried in work and stressed and needs a bit of time. So then I know it isn't me. He's not sitting there thinking, "I don't want to talk to this boring creep". When something doesn't go right, we all have the tendency to think that it's about us.

I've pretty much given up on meeting guys online because no one says what they mean and there's too damn much uncertainty.