05-25-2020, 06:44 PM
(05-25-2020, 06:33 PM)InbetweenDreams Wrote: @Tjemka88 Would you leave your partner if they become disabled where they need assistance to some degree? I also think that someone who is missing a limb or two probably would need some assistance. I do appreciate your honesty though.
Not sure if I posted in this thread without going back. I general, yes I would date someone who is disabled in some manner. Does it make it more difficult? Sure it does, but I do try to put myself in their position, probably much more difficult when the shoe's on the other foot. So if my partner were to become disabled I probably wouldn't up and leave them. I would at least try. It can be unbelivably difficult. Having helped taken care of my grandmother before she passed away from dementia it is not easy and while we all might have the best of intentions you might not be up for whatever comes up when someone is or becomes disabled. They might really need the help and may not have any other means of getting that help. So it is not an easy question to answer. Where the fine line at?
If we were already dating and I had developed feelings for him, I wouldn't leave. But if we just met and he had severe special needs, then most likely I wouldn't stay. I'm just being honest.
Before making an opinion on something, I always try to put myself in other people's situations. And I know that if I suddenly became totally bedridden or if I wasn't able to take care of myself without the help of others, I wouldn't consider my partner an asshole if he didn't want to be with me anymore.