Age Gap: Worry about after my partner passes away.

[kindy64]

What makes you think that you will or should be alone after your partner passes away?

I just got divorced 2 years ago at the age of 50. If I let my fear of being alone control me, I wouldn't have gotten divorced and instead put up with being in a miserable situation (and probably cheated to fulfil my "needs.") Whose to say that after he passes away, you can't find another person to be with.

Now, I have a relationship with a man who I absolutely adore, and he me. He doesn't think he will live past his 20's, so even though I'm older by 30 years, he gives me the impression he will die first. There's also the possibility that we could split apart, it happens, already been through it.

Plan appropriately for the future event of either of you passing away, through insurance, wills, and such. (One thing I made sure to do is put him as a co-beneficiary on my life insurance policy with my son.)

Otherwise, don't worry about stuff you have no control over. Live and enjoy the moments you have with him. Don't let fear decide your fate.