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12-08-2016, 07:13 AM
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Your question is a good one. Eleven years age difference is perhaps not as great as you think. Are you a smoker and he not? Smokers die ten years earlier than non-smokers, statistically speaking. Lifestyle and genetics are significant factors.
But, as you posed the question, you are worried you outlive your partner by 11 years and that you will be alone all this time. This points to the need for you to have a good circle of friends and a rich life outside of your partner. So while it may not be easy after the passing of your partner for quite some time, you can at least not be isolated and alone.
[I am on the opposite side of this equation. I am 19 years older than my partner. I make a point to keep healthy and active so we have as many years together as possible.]
I know one couple who each lost their spouse in old age. As single people they started traveling and staying at elder hostels in Europe. It was in one of these hostels that they met. They started traveling together. Eventually, they married in their 70s and had a good 12 years together. They were of similar age. He outlived her and did not remarry a 3rd time. He is in his 90s now. He still has daily activities outside the house every day.
It's good to think about how you might live if your partner is gone no matter the age difference. Life is full of uncertainties. It will be surely be easier to handle if it happens with a strong circle of family and friends plus some kind of life now that is independent of your partner.
[I am on the opposite side of this equation. I am 19 years old than my partner. I make a point to keep healthy and active so we have as many good years together as we can.]
Your question is a good one. Eleven years age difference is perhaps not as great as you think. Are you a smoker and he not? Smokers die ten years earlier than non-smokers, statistically speaking. Lifestyle and genetics are significant factors.
But, as you posed the question, you are worried you outlive your partner by 11 years and that you will be alone all this time. This points to the need for you to have a good circle of friends and a rich life outside of your partner. So while it may not be easy after the passing of your partner for quite some time, you can at least not be isolated and alone.
[I am on the opposite side of this equation. I am 19 years older than my partner. I make a point to keep healthy and active so we have as many years together as possible.]
I know one couple who each lost their spouse in old age. As single people they started traveling and staying at elder hostels in Europe. It was in one of these hostels that they met. They started traveling together. Eventually, they married in their 70s and had a good 12 years together. They were of similar age. He outlived her and did not remarry a 3rd time. He is in his 90s now. He still has daily activities outside the house every day.
It's good to think about how you might live if your partner is gone no matter the age difference. Life is full of uncertainties. It will be surely be easier to handle if it happens with a strong circle of family and friends plus some kind of life now that is independent of your partner.
[I am on the opposite side of this equation. I am 19 years old than my partner. I make a point to keep healthy and active so we have as many good years together as we can.]
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