02-13-2017, 10:44 PM
So, this has been on my mind off and on awhile, and I'm looking for opinions. I'm wondering whether my ex husband is gay. His current wife also struggling with this. Here is the situation...
1. We divorced after 12 years (10 yrs divorced). During that time he bashed gays, hated movies about affairs, etc. in hindsight, seems like a red flag given his behavior.
2. He moved out of state, then suddenly had gay friends. He even let a gay man stay at his house on several occasions. (Our kids told me & an ex gf of his who was suspicious.) this was 5 years ago. If he had previously been open-minded, I wouldn't question it.
3. His current wife having same issues we did. (They've been married 3 years) She has texted with questions. He acts like he likes sex, and then once you're married it stops. His current wife says he has very low testosterone, for which he once took injections. They are currently in counseling and she texts me every so often, he is a sociopath, pathological liar...and she is struggling with all of that as she just figured it all out. (I'm not just saying that because he is my ex, lol.)
4. I told her my suspicions. I thought her saying he had low testosterone was the end of it, but She found the guy's number, who supposedly used to stay with him, still on his phone & called him. They spoke over the phone and the man told her to talk to her husband, so she explained that he lies and that is why she contacted him. He then asked to speak to her husband and she brought the phone to him and put it on speaker. The guy was gay and confirmed he stayed with my ex a few times. He told her nothing sexual happened, but he did crawl into bed with her husband (my ex) after a party (they had lots of parties at his house he said). He said her husband turned him down and that was it. Then, said she received "snippy" texts from the guy all night.
I realize we are divorced, I am just looking for some resolution in my head. I think this all sounds suspicious. To me, he is only attracted to women as mother figures, but up until recently I thought he was probably asexual. Now, I wonder if I completely missed that he is gay. ?? Thoughts? (I typed quickly, sorry if confusing.)
1. We divorced after 12 years (10 yrs divorced). During that time he bashed gays, hated movies about affairs, etc. in hindsight, seems like a red flag given his behavior.
2. He moved out of state, then suddenly had gay friends. He even let a gay man stay at his house on several occasions. (Our kids told me & an ex gf of his who was suspicious.) this was 5 years ago. If he had previously been open-minded, I wouldn't question it.
3. His current wife having same issues we did. (They've been married 3 years) She has texted with questions. He acts like he likes sex, and then once you're married it stops. His current wife says he has very low testosterone, for which he once took injections. They are currently in counseling and she texts me every so often, he is a sociopath, pathological liar...and she is struggling with all of that as she just figured it all out. (I'm not just saying that because he is my ex, lol.)
4. I told her my suspicions. I thought her saying he had low testosterone was the end of it, but She found the guy's number, who supposedly used to stay with him, still on his phone & called him. They spoke over the phone and the man told her to talk to her husband, so she explained that he lies and that is why she contacted him. He then asked to speak to her husband and she brought the phone to him and put it on speaker. The guy was gay and confirmed he stayed with my ex a few times. He told her nothing sexual happened, but he did crawl into bed with her husband (my ex) after a party (they had lots of parties at his house he said). He said her husband turned him down and that was it. Then, said she received "snippy" texts from the guy all night.
I realize we are divorced, I am just looking for some resolution in my head. I think this all sounds suspicious. To me, he is only attracted to women as mother figures, but up until recently I thought he was probably asexual. Now, I wonder if I completely missed that he is gay. ?? Thoughts? (I typed quickly, sorry if confusing.)
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