Gay or straight?

[IanSaysHi]

Some stuff you've said maybe seems suspicious but again it's hard to tell. People do change through time; I've known guys who were homophobic (including family) who changed. He could even have gone through some kind of life crisis where surrounding himself with new kinds of people that challenged his previous convictions made him feel younger or something. I've known one straight guy very well who was homophobic and changed as well as not treating the women in his life very well. I know you say you're looking for resolution in your head but as Doc said, maybe he's just not a nice guy and although it's not nice to have been through it all, at least you're free of it now.