Gay or straight?

[TwisttheLeaf]

*Uses the point-by-point system, cuz it's easier for him and you already started it out that way.*

1. Although it's common for those un-accepting of their own preferences to present with bashing behavior, there's plenty of straight people out there that are just as bad and have no inclination towards "gay relations". This means it isn't useful as an indicator of.... well anything other than the guy was a closed-minded asshole.
   
   
   
2. • Moving out of state could be for any number of reasons that have absolutely nothing do do with sexual preference.
   • Suddenly having gay friends, after your point above (Part 1) is a bit odd. Although some people have a change of heart, it doesn't usually bounce so dramatically from one side of the fence to the other unless there's a personal epiphany involved. So THIS, in my opinion, could be an indicator... but it's not definitive.
   
   
   
3. • Not all men have high libidos... this does not indicate they're batting for a team other than the one their partner is on.
   • Some men have erectile dysfunction issues. This is a medical condition, not an "I'm not interested in you cuz I'm gay" issue.
   • Low testosterone is also not a "gay" issue. It's a medical condition.
   • Being a liar does not in any way indicate they are gay. It just means they're a liar.
   • Being a sociopath does not in any way indicate they are gay. It just means they're a sociopath.
     
   
   
   
4. • If you weren't feeding into her suspicions and encouraging her contact, she wouldn't be continuing to correspond with you. You two are feeding off each other.
   • Calling his friend to see if they fucked him was way beyond encroaching into another person's privacy. Whether they fucked or not, the answer would be "we didn't" unless the guy is a complete asshole or wants to burn your ex-husband for some slight or another. Truth is? Hell, there's a good chance if they -were- screwing and aren't anymore, that she may have possibly just re-kindled something that had died.
   • NO man wants to be harassed about who they've been screwing, whether gay or straight. Him being irked about it is natural. Hell, I'd have told her to not call back and hung up on her ass.
   
   
5. All of the things listed above that don't make him gay? Well, they don't make him asexual either.

In conclusion, maybe he is gay. Maybe he's asexual. Maybe he's straight with a medical condition that's hindering his libido in some way (or a tendency to get bored). In the end, you've been divorced for 10 YEARS. For god sake, move on already. Who the hell cares what he's doing or who he's doing it with. He's not yours anymore to worry on it over.