Gay or straight?

[Darius]

Hi Lesley, glad to have you here. If you find out your ex is gay, how will that resolution make you feel better? It might answer some questions but it won't really change what must have been a painful time in your life. I don't really detect any bitterness in what your write.
Also, how wise do you think it is for you to get involved in his current marriage?

I would say there is nothing worse than a closet case dragging other people (like wives) into their deceptions. I hope you find peace and healing. I also hope you hang around and contribute again to the forums here.