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[MENTION=24247]Lesley72[/MENTION] I have a close friend who is going through a hard time having broken up with her partner of many years just before Xmas. I never knew why she was with him as he constantly made her unhappy, I wanted to intervene but it was their relationship so all I could do was offer advice. She'd finally had enough and now I'm trying to help her recover but it's going to take a while. Her ex also plays mind games and starts drama and I keep telling my friend that as long as she responds, reacts to it or shows interest then he knows he still has power/control over her. He'd made her feel so low about herself over the years that it's difficult but bit by bit we'll get there. I know you don't need to hear about my friend (lol) but the relevance is is it still sounds like your ex has that hold over you somehow. I know it's hard but please don't let this guy control your attention anymore; he's not worth it. Just react to any mind games and drama you may hear of with indifference and once he finds out you don't care anymore he will hopefully move on. If it helps my friend was getting numerous horrible messages a day from her ex and she kept reacting to them. In the end I gave her calm, controlled and frankly boring responses to send back, once she sent these he's stopped contacting her so something worked