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By the very definition of the work it is gossip and their behaviour is definitely bitchy. So my opinion is irrelevant.

The facts matter.

What if the man in question is a member of this forum????

What if there is another innocent man in a similar situation in this forum????

How do you think they would feel if they felt they were being talked about like this??? Betrayed???? Gutted???

Negative words??? The whole situation was negative right from the very start, before I even posted and single word.

I understand you don't like gossip and neither do I or anyone, I suppose. But to be fair, on this forum, there are so many other posts asking for opinions about "is s/he closet gay" or "what does /she want" or "Is s/he just experimenting" etc. Yes it is talking behind people's back. But what matters is the intention. If they are asking for help and wants to find some comfort, do not disclose crucial information (eg exact name, city, etc) ; do not have an intention to slender that person, I think it is acceptable.

There will always be times that people need other's opinion. And very often those situations would involve other people in it. (Even looking for counselling would involves that). If even that would upset you that much, I don't know what to say. Isn't it a little bit overreacting?