Gay or straight?

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By the very definition of the work it is gossip and their behaviour is definitely bitchy. So my opinion is irrelevant.

The facts matter.

What if the man in question is a member of this forum????

What if there is another innocent man in a similar situation in this forum????

How do you think they would feel if they felt they were being talked about like this??? Betrayed???? Gutted???

Negative words??? The whole situation was negative right from the very start, before I even posted and single word.

As I said, [MENTION=24118]deephiance[/MENTION], I did not mean to say your opinion had no value, it is your opinion and you are allowed to hold it. Call this gossip if you wish. I'm not sure that the rest of us reading the original post viewed it as gossip. I think we viewed it more as a genuine request to understand what was going on.

As I also said, no one was named, so does it matter whether this person is a member of the boards or not?

Our views differ and I think we can agree to disagree, maybe not on the definition of 'gossip' but on our interpretation of the original and subsequent posts. I saw nothing ill-intentioned or reprehensible in Lesley's request. To me, you are imputing motives, or jumping to conclusions which were probably not the poster's intention to slight someone.

But clearly it made you very uneasy. We can all acknowledge that. You can air your views, fine, maybe even ask questions to further the debate or the discussion, but is it necessary to pull out the foul language? Maybe not.

I'm trying to explain that your opinion is relevant, I guess, and I don't see why you disown yourself of that opinion. The facts matter, you say? Yes, well they do. Sometimes facts state things that aren't all positive, it doesn't necessarily make it gossip.

Lesley was trying to find an explanation to her ex husband's low libido. I'll grant you that maybe this is less of a fact than an opinion, but let's go with it as being a fact. Lesley's ex didn't have a lot of sex with wife. The new wife says he's displaying similar behaviour with her. Probably fact too, (or opinion ?) I don't know how much sex these ladies expected to get out of this man, nor even whether their expectations were unreasonable. What we're left with is a case to discuss : is it possible for a man to display low libido with a woman when he is in fact gay? Would that be something normal? (I don't know if it is, to be honest, but it is likely, other such cases have been documented of being this way). I know Lesley hasn't considered putting to us the statement that maybe her husband doesn't find her attractive, nor his second wife but then you might still wonder about his motivations for marrying either of them? Are we not confusing 'gossip' with 'speculation' or' hypothesis'? Is the intention to slander or demean?