Gay or straight?

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Over reacting? I can see how it would be seen that way.

I'm passionate about peoples rights and my advice here would carry over to the many hundreds that have already asked this question in these forums.

These are the things I believe in very strongly -

No one is anything other than what they state..they state they are straight, then they are straight. They state they are gay, they are gay. It is not a matter for discussion by others because in my mind that is gossip.

No one should be backed into a corner to reveal their sexuality which is how I see this ending.

If someone is not hurting you or anyone else, then their sexuality and/or their sex life is none of your business unless they make it your business.

Like I said, I am passionate, I am also very very blunt and I know how that comes across to others, but I simply do not care (I don't walk into a room and wonder if people like me, I walk into a room and wonder if I like people)

Anonymous is only anonymous as long as it is anonymous...and like I previously stated, there could be some people reading this and thinking 'Maybe it is me, if I ever find out my wife and ex-wife are talking like that behind my back there will be trouble.'

GOSSIP HURTS PEOPLE

If you want to know if someone is gay, ask them.

I apologise for my bluntness and my offense, but I am who I am, and I believe what I believe.

Yes, [MENTION=24118]deephiance[/MENTION], I agree with much of what you say here.
I'd like to answer some of the previous questions you asked in the previous post.
My point is that two 'wrongs' don't make a 'right'. That's just inflation in hurt or insult.

1 * What if the man in question is a member of this forum????
If he is he will probably recognise himself, or maybe not, because maybe he won't read this particular thread. I don't know. This is a public forum and no one has been named. I have no idea who this Lesley is. She may not be using her real name either. There is a likelihood that if he isn't gay at all, he won't be reading these pages. Not much risk here.

2 * What if there is another innocent man in a similar situation in this forum????
He may think this is about him? Is that what you are implying? Maybe it will make him think about how his behaviour affects others too (negatively)? I'm not sure where this argument is going? I'm not sure you need to state that the man in question is innocent. Innocent of what? Being gay is not an accusation or a curse (to me). Should it be? It might be an explanation or a reason for types of behaviour but it's not something to be blamed for, is it?

3 * How do you think they would feel if they felt they were being talked about like this??? Betrayed???? Gutted???
Possibly both, but again I'd think the old saying applies ''If the cap fits, wear it!''. I understand what you're saying but the word 'paranoid' comes to mind on this particular issue. Again, no name has been given, and I can't think of any sufficient details that could mean anything to me or most of the people who come to this board. This is a public forum, everyone can express themselves on it, ask questions, the only ones we're trying to keep out are the trolls, but is Lesley a 'troll'? I think there's a rant that you need to air that would explain why you are taking all this so seriously. (By the way, thanks for your previous explanations)

Lesley's question wasn't banter, I don't think. I believe her question was genuine, and I also don't think it deserved being called a 'bitch' or 'bitchy' (too strong, too opinionated, and uncalled for to my mind). However since I can't force you to take it back, and it is your opinion, I'm going to roll with the punches (I guess Lesley will too) and accept that you have a differing opinion about what people are allowed to say on this site and what they should refrain from saying.

I really really don't think she crossed a line. I may be wrong. I commend you for defending people's rights to their privacy, I would advocate that myself. But are we not saying to Lesley that she can't come and expose a problem she's had just because it involves a partner, or ex partner? I too would suggest she lets it go and finds other more interesting pursuits but again maybe what she's really asking is :
''Was there anything wrong with me? Did I do something wrong with my ex husband? Why did our relationship fail?''

I think she'd like to understand why it didn't work out. A lot of other people ask the very same questions on this site.