Wanting the guys we know are bad for us

[Bowyn Aerrow]

This is more of a rhetorical rant than anything but it's something I'm currently going through and it's always fun to see what answers, comments and follow up questions you guys come up.

The main question: "Why do we always seem to want (and sometimes fall in love with) the guys that don't want us? The guys that would rather lie than tell the truth. The guys that would rather sleep around instead of settling with one guy. The guys that repeatedly toy with our feelings and emotions and accept no responsibility or show any remorse for doing so.
Why do we seem to always fall for the assholes/players/charmers in life? What makes them so damn desirable and so freaking difficult to let go, move on from and forget?

It's almost maddening. We spend so much time thinking about them, trying to convince them that we are worth it. They keep us from moving on, keep us wrapped into this mindset of "why don't they appreciate me" and ultimately keep us from meeting better guys that have everything we do actually desire. Those guys that will treat us with the respect and compassion we seek.

There's my psychological, philosophical rant. Have a good rest of the weekend guys!

1. Usually the hotter a guy is the more he knows it and uses this as a weapon to et what he wants. Usually. There are a few really "hot" guys who have no clue they are hot and end up adorable... naive, but adorable.

2. Most (not all) men are basically piggish. I'm sorry I just lied there, all guys are basically pigs. The straight world has them as well, however Woman keeps them in line... usually, often, well all the time when it comes to Divorce rates... well... Gay and bi males don't have to buy into the confusion of a guy having 100 mates is a stud while a gal with 5 or less is a slut. This all ties into the biological design of males of the species homo sapience.

3. We find the complaint that men are arseholes, pigs, cheaters, blah blah blah the further into the future we slip. Mind back in the 1970's the 'ideal' male was "average" now we have all of these pressures defining beauty as this thing that the majority cannot attain. This has lead to a generation more obsessed with the unattainable, thus leading most of us to seek out a very narrow range of potentials, which takes us back to number 1.

2. The 21st century brings us connectivity which brings us 31 flavors of choices. Back in the stone age we had three flavors (if lucky) to choose from. The more choices we are given the most likely we are to choose wrong.

3. To human is to err.... that is a ageless issue, we all make mistakes and now days we are able t make far many more mistakes because we have a throwaway society which allows us to go through people like toilet-paper.

Imagine growing up in a world were you didn't go more than 20 miles from your home, you met maybe a few thousand people. What you had to choose from you had, and you made "it" work. Ergo divorce was lower (not just religious or society pressure, lack of new potential mates), you didn't complain about the little stuff and lots of the big stuff. Today we can throw out an expensive device because of a crack or a flaw, we do the same for humans.

Its not so much that people have gotten worse at being people, we just got a lot more picky and assume that there was this ideal "better" in the days of the past. There wasn't, people were still animals, just today we are lead to believe that we can trade in a flawed one for another and deserve or should expect better.