06-14-2017, 12:56 AM
I'm with [MENTION=20941]Camfer[/MENTION] on this one. It's good that you've stepped back to gain a little perspective.
He says he only wants FWB, but behaves as though you two are in a relationship, which gives him all the perks of a relationship with no commitment of any kind. Also, there are a couple definite red flags here. Getting drunk and "accidentally outing you is not acceptable...I suspect that he wanted your connection to be more public, but instead of discussing it with you, he chose to handle it this way. Not okay...and, unless the two of you were discussing a threesome, asking you to help pick out guys for him is absolutely tacky...Ugh.
You ask if he would behave as he does if he didn't really care for you. Well...my husband appeared to be fully participating in our marriage while doing all of the things you described with his BF. So who knows what the depth of real feeling is.
It's fine to stay friends, particularly since you move in the same circles, but I'd be very wary of further involvement until he starts coming clean with you.
He says he only wants FWB, but behaves as though you two are in a relationship, which gives him all the perks of a relationship with no commitment of any kind. Also, there are a couple definite red flags here. Getting drunk and "accidentally outing you is not acceptable...I suspect that he wanted your connection to be more public, but instead of discussing it with you, he chose to handle it this way. Not okay...and, unless the two of you were discussing a threesome, asking you to help pick out guys for him is absolutely tacky...Ugh.
You ask if he would behave as he does if he didn't really care for you. Well...my husband appeared to be fully participating in our marriage while doing all of the things you described with his BF. So who knows what the depth of real feeling is.
It's fine to stay friends, particularly since you move in the same circles, but I'd be very wary of further involvement until he starts coming clean with you.
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