09-27-2010, 03:00 PM
It sounds like the main issue is that this "friend" is associating being gay with something deeply shameful and he is allowing some of that through but he us drawing the line at other things.
He won't admit he is gay. If he stays the top, he is equaling that with the male position in heterosexual sex and that is some how fine. He's still having sex with a man!
The underlying issue is therefore in the head. He's stage one (read The Velvet Rage) and I don't think you are going to realistically start progressing until he's at stage two. Having said that, he may just be a top, but at this time, I don't see how to get an accurate understanding unless he's willing to admit who he is.
This is of course just my opinion. I'm not a psychologist.
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He won't admit he is gay. If he stays the top, he is equaling that with the male position in heterosexual sex and that is some how fine. He's still having sex with a man!
The underlying issue is therefore in the head. He's stage one (read The Velvet Rage) and I don't think you are going to realistically start progressing until he's at stage two. Having said that, he may just be a top, but at this time, I don't see how to get an accurate understanding unless he's willing to admit who he is.
This is of course just my opinion. I'm not a psychologist.
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