10-05-2010, 04:35 PM
I was always told not to give advice on relationships, it always seems better to see what someone has to say and then let them work it out for themselves. People mostly just seem to need verification of their decision from others, knowing in their heart what their real choice is. Somehow it still needs backup.
It's a sad story, but there does seem to be hope here given time; the problem is if you have the patience to be around waiting for him. You seem quite clear in your mind about your wants, the exact opposite of your partner. I don't know him well enough to say, but I know 'coming out' is an awful time and it may take him a long time (if ever) to come to terms with his feelings. And I'm winning gold for stating the obvious here
from an amateur psychology point of view - you're pressuring him, and that's not good for the goose or the gander. It's a natural human response to be angry when somebody challenges your beliefs; it may not even be personal, it's a defence mechanism.
In return he's also assuming a lot of incorrect and patronising things about you. Assumptions make an ass out of U and ME.
It sounds cold but the real key here may be indifference - staying in touch and being friends but moving on with your life to make him realise you have great potential; being comfortable in yourself is a wonderful property and envious.
It's a sad story, but there does seem to be hope here given time; the problem is if you have the patience to be around waiting for him. You seem quite clear in your mind about your wants, the exact opposite of your partner. I don't know him well enough to say, but I know 'coming out' is an awful time and it may take him a long time (if ever) to come to terms with his feelings. And I'm winning gold for stating the obvious here
from an amateur psychology point of view - you're pressuring him, and that's not good for the goose or the gander. It's a natural human response to be angry when somebody challenges your beliefs; it may not even be personal, it's a defence mechanism.
In return he's also assuming a lot of incorrect and patronising things about you. Assumptions make an ass out of U and ME.
It sounds cold but the real key here may be indifference - staying in touch and being friends but moving on with your life to make him realise you have great potential; being comfortable in yourself is a wonderful property and envious.
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