10-15-2010, 04:33 PM
oh god. i'm sorry to hear you're going through this. i've been there myself.. one of my bf's in colelge was big ,and i was never unsure how to handle it.. cuz i'd hate when people would talk about it.
people have no control over what they're given. I think you need to love what you have and accept it. if the guy is gross and only cares about that then you probably wouldn't wanna be with him anyway except for the physical stuff, and that sounds like a friends w benefits versus a relationship.
Don't do that to yourself. you are a fully dimensional person. i broke up with my ex back in the day because he was a self hating religious guy who will never stand up to his parents.. just not for me.
you sound objectified by being with him. it shouldn't be a competitive thing at allllll.
people have no control over what they're given. I think you need to love what you have and accept it. if the guy is gross and only cares about that then you probably wouldn't wanna be with him anyway except for the physical stuff, and that sounds like a friends w benefits versus a relationship.
Don't do that to yourself. you are a fully dimensional person. i broke up with my ex back in the day because he was a self hating religious guy who will never stand up to his parents.. just not for me.
you sound objectified by being with him. it shouldn't be a competitive thing at allllll.