11-13-2010, 09:29 AM
The short answer to the OP's question is that it's unusual but not rare.
However I think the word 'realised' is key here. It's a matter of finally making sense if confused thoughts and feelings, of abandoning that learned assumption from childhood that we are straight, and looking at the actual evidence.
Obviously, there are changes of feelings associated with that realisation. Relief to be free of disturbing doubts at the back of one's mind. Anxiety about the future. Unrepressed attraction to men. The absence of imagined/willed attraction to women. However I get the impression (tell me if I am wrong) from your post that your feelings towards women were stronger than that, so I am wondering if things are more complicated that simply realising that you are gay.
However I think the word 'realised' is key here. It's a matter of finally making sense if confused thoughts and feelings, of abandoning that learned assumption from childhood that we are straight, and looking at the actual evidence.
Obviously, there are changes of feelings associated with that realisation. Relief to be free of disturbing doubts at the back of one's mind. Anxiety about the future. Unrepressed attraction to men. The absence of imagined/willed attraction to women. However I get the impression (tell me if I am wrong) from your post that your feelings towards women were stronger than that, so I am wondering if things are more complicated that simply realising that you are gay.
Fred
Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.
Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.
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