Did anyone realize they were gay later than 20?

[Anonymous]

Obviously, there are changes of feelings associated with that realisation. Relief to be free of disturbing doubts at the back of one's mind. Anxiety about the future. Unrepressed attraction to men. The absence of imagined/willed attraction to women. However I get the impression (tell me if I am wrong) from your post that your feelings towards women were stronger than that, so I am wondering if things are more complicated that simply realising that you are gay.

I have thought about this long and hard (no pun intended), and the only thing that I can legitimately think is the conservative nature of my household growing up. My mom was a religious nutjob, and everything was considered the demonic...my life was so restricted that even after being away from her for over 4 years now, I only recently began to realize how full of shit she was, and I think it screwed me up for the worse.

The best advice that I can give you is that go with flow and you take it easy with sexuality. It seems like you may actually be bisexual if you enjoyed being intimate with women. However, ultimately up to you to decide what your sexuality is. That's another thing... I remember thinking that maybe I was bi, but my attraction to women was not equal to men and not even a little bit of an attraction towards women.

Granted my feelings for women were legitimate and sincere, I can't even imagine being with one at this point. It is sorta like a switch was turned off(or on) and that whole idea of a raising a family as a heterosexual is just so....unappealing and offputting. I havent been with a guy yet, but I feel so much deeper of a connection when I see an attractive guy on TV or when I am out with friends than I ever did with a woman.

hello first you have 257 posts think it might be time to come out of the anonymous closet lol

Thats strange, Ive only been around here for 2 or so weeks, and only posted once or twice.