"gaydar" any advice?

[Jay]

For me, I am in closet so it 's very difficult for guy approaches me first. I act totally straight but I do emit gay vibe. One of my co worker who is gay told me so. There were guys randomly stare and give me a cheeky smile, but I doubt they are gay because I always smile back but nothing happen :frown:

I'm not 100% out. But I think my appearance do loudly give a signal to gay guys that I am gay. I don't wear flamboyant stuff, feminine and alike. It's just that I wear bow tie to work instead of a normal tie. I'm also not afraid to wear pink, purple etc. I'm not a soft guy but I am known as a soft spoken guy.

Alright so you smiled to them back. Since nothing happened afterward, maybe you can make the first move. I'm not suggesting you to rip their shirts off and smooch them. Just say hi and make a light conversation with them like, "Heading for lunch?" Nothing sexual. Just a friendly 'straight' conversation. See where that conversation takes you off afterward.