Cheating??

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If a person doesn't feel pressured to act this way or that by rules decreed within the relationship, they are less likely, it seems, to overstep boundaries, aren't they?

I think this is true because I have been faithful for almost 25 years without ever promising to be...because I WANT to. I definitely encourage my lover to do what he has to do and for me...it turns me on much more to know he comes home to me because he WANTS to and not because he is bound by some promise.

I have seen so much pain and angst in my life from people who promise to be faithful...and who base their self worth on whether or not someone is faithful to them. I have seen ugly revenge and the worst kind of hate all because of infidelity...I have seen people live out their lives as pathetic victims (drama queens) draining the life out of everyone who will listen to them whine about their unfaithful mates...waste their precious lives because they don't trust other people to not "cheat" on them...look at the divorce rate! So...my question sis...why do people make a promise they may or may not be able to keep? I only make promises I can keep and I am honest about that.,..I think more people should do the same:biggrin: