Cheating??

[princealbertofb]

If a person doesn't feel under pressure to obey the rules, then they are more likely to obey them??????

That doesn't really make sense to me.

Someone who doesn't like the rules is more likely to 'feel pressured' into obeying them, but he breaks them because he doesn't like them.

That's not quite what I said, Fred. I was saying: "Open the boundaries, don't restrict, give a man enough freedom and he will be in a place where he can commit willingly, not because forced to". It acts as a self guard of sorts, and makes a person define their own limits.

It's also about not expecting of someone something that they are unable to give you. You can't blame someone for who they are intrinsically. If they are roamers, then you've got to cut them some slack. If they're homebodies, then it stands to reason to let them stay at home. It doesn't mean that there is no room to explore, but it means that a lot of relationships come to an end because of rules that cannot be enforced and that ultimately fray a relationship at the edges or at its heart.