Cheating??

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Then you might have a problem unless you manage to adapt to those looser criteria / boundaries.

I'd suggest that we would just not be a good match. All relationships involve compromise, but there is a limit.

Yes, you are probably right that some men cannot resist having sex outside of their committed relationships (I mean married men, like partnered men). Therefore we are not talking about all men, and certainly not generalising.

PA, I think you misunderstood me. I was parodying the idea that some men can't control their urges. I don't believe for a second they can't, they just don't. I accept that some men find controling their urges more difficult than others and I'd suggest that they should make promises of fidelity that are unlikely to keep.

Again, there is the notion, at least amongst some gay couples, that being sexually active with other partners has nothing to do with infidelity in the couple... ie with emotional fidelity.

I have to say that I think controlling ones emotions and never developing feelings for another is asking the impossible. One of the reasons sex is so powerful is that it is so capable of stirring up feelings.