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I think people really don't take sufficient interest in other areas of their lives when looking for a partner that is fit to be with you for any amount of time. Where do straight people meet their partners? Mostly, they meet them at work, at church, at weddings, among friends... etc. OK, gay men may be harder to come by in ordinary social settings, and there is the added difficulty of many of us not being out to friends and family (or else they'd be finding us people to hook us up with, right, gentlemen?). However, I think if you actually have a bit of a social life, belonging to a society or association, volunteering in a charity, going to a gym or to a dance club, you are more likely to find people that you would enjoy hanging out with and maybe making your parner one day.

Let those sites cater to those who want a quick hookup for sex, because that's what they are for. I'm not saying you won't meet your ideal partner out there and in that context, but basically it is like looking for a needle in a haystack.

Although gay sex is the sort of sex you would want when you are gay, it isn't actually the sex that will bind a couple lastingly, but all the other areas of life in which you spend some of your time. Belong to a book club, go and do some singing, or some acting... Go and help in a production or learn to make jewellery or pottery. Join a walking and hiking or mountaineering club. You are much more likely to find someone that is well assorted.