Unhappy huge crush on straight childhood best friend

[LateBloomer]

I can sympathize with your situation. I've been head ove heels for a straight friend for almost a year now. There really is no right answer to your problem, only the one you settle with. Telling him can change things that maybe you don't want to change. Not telling him would mean letting the feelings continue and sort of consume your life. Honestly, I think starting the process of coming out of the closet would help in the long run but that's just my opinion.

My advice. When you go to a museum and you stand too far away from a painting you can't see any of the detail, when you stand too close all you see are blotches of colour. Right now you're a little to close. Try taking a few steps back and letting your brain take in the whole picture. The crush, the love you feel may never go away, but it will change and you won't feel so crazy anymore. You have to see your life without him in it from time to time. That's not to say cut him out of your life, just realize who you are without him in around.

Sage advice.



I've written elsewhere about my "crush" (or love) of a straight friend of mine from college. Pretty much wrecked me for a year or two...didn't even recognize what I was feeling at the time.

But as you say, time and distance allows perspective. We're still friends today and I'd do anything for him but I'm not "wrecked" like I used to be.