Mate has not been honest with me

[ZackT]

That 5% thing, it's not really meant to be an exact figure. I'd like to think that if he told you about this up front, that he's trying to be honest and just get the message across that there's a small chance of him doing something with another man.

I'm assuming your guy is Bi?

So yea, he scored with the girl, and maybe with the guy too. Maybe they had a 3 way. Who knows.

My question is this - Why are you ok with him doing stuff with girls, but not guys? It's the same thing, he's being unfaithful to you and if it's not ok with guys, then what's so special about girls that you think it'll turn out fine? If you were looking for a compromise, I think you found the wrong one. I'm not trying to be mean here, but if you want to be in a monogamous relationship, you can't tell your partner that it's ok for them to sleep with certain people but not others.

I'd say try and get a hold of him and get the facts. If he won't tell you what the facts are, it's kind've obvious what happened. The biggest reason (and I think most likely reason) that he wouldn't tell you is because he strayed with another man and doesn't want to admit it. I say, you want monogamy? Find someone who wants that from the start too.