Mate has not been honest with me

[ZackT]

Some guys (and girls) are just like that. They want to have lots of sex with lots of people for whatever reason. Trophies, ego, sense of self worth, I dunno.

My main point is that if this openness is not something you're comfortable with, you gotta settle it with him. You have a few choices from here, I think.

You can either decide to try and deal with it and not let it upset you and continue on like things have been going.

You can decide to end it and move on now.

You can talk to him and let him know and lay down your feelings, tell him you ain't comfortable with this secrecy and outside sex and leave it up to him to decide if he wants to stay exclusive to you or end it.



It's up to you, but my guess is you wouldn't be happy letting things continue on the way they have been. I suggest talking it out. I personally think that based on how you've described him, that it's probably not gonna end in your favor. But this guy needs to sort himself out first anyway. If he can't be honest to his close friends or family about who he is, how could you expect to have a long lasting satisfying relationship with him? He won't even admit to his friends or family that he's with you, from the sounds of it. That's not a very positive way to go.