What's the appeal of going to church?

[pellaz]

I grew up in the SF Bay Area I had better odds ...

Its a tiny world. The ethnic identity in most cases is un healthy mentally and clinically. Fag food is much more low in fat.

here in Silicon Valley they took out an ad supporting gay marriage ...I think there were maybe 30-40 individual churches listed in the ad.

Explore your options everyone and pick what works. Unless you are looking for a hobby project, you are really the lazy gay to pick an established faith system and suppose it will do as much for you as the next. You can try to effect change at the church where you go but for me more of a project than most people have patience for.